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"Don’t take a nude pic if you’re a famous woman and don’t want it leaked."


"Don’t wear a hoodie if you don’t want to be mistaken for a criminal and shot."

"Don’t get drunk at a party if you don’t want to be sexually assaulted."

"Don’t argue with a cop if you don’t want to get killed."

"Don’t walk home by yourself if you don’t want to get raped."

Victim blaming 101: Everyone should live in fear from ever doing anything.








I have a few copies of “Playboy” from the 1970s stashed away somewhere. One of them has a letter where a guy writes in saying, “I met this really gorgeous, sweet woman, and we were planning to get married, but she sat me down yesterday and told me that she had a sex change before she met me. Mr. Hefner, should I marry someone who used to be a man?” and the response was, “So she had a sex change, big whoop. Would you be asking this question if she’d made any other change in her life before she met you? You love the woman she is now, and that’s all that should matter. If you want kids you can adopt or something.”

I feel so conflicted right now

That awkward moment when Hugh Hefner is more trans-positive than most feminists of the same era. 




Every time I see a post about hymens and virginity, I need to say this and reiterate it and just make everyone understand:

your first time is not supposed to hurt

your first time is not supposed to hurt

your first time is not supposed to hurt



  • Not enough lubrication.
  • Not enough preparation.
  • Not enough foreplay.
  • Your partner is a giant dicksplash.


  • LUBE IS YOUR VERY BEST FRIEND! Yes the vagina secretes a fluid that can act as a natural lubricant but that is not enough for vaginal sex. And for some women (like myself), they do not secrete nearly enough for even penetration, let alone sex. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH LUBE.
  • FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY!!! You want to be good and turned on, like super turned on, coz the more you’re aroused, the more pliant and warm your vagina is going to be, and it’s more likely to allow a dick in without tearing. Like even when you’re giving birth, doctors nowadays will actually massage the outer rim of your vagina so that everything loosens up and allows A FUCKING BABY TO BE BORN WITHOUT TEARING YOU.
  • PREPARATION (WHICH IS SOMEWHAT RELATED TO FOREPLAY)!!!! If you have never had anything in your vagina before, you’re probs gonna need a couple fingers in there to help you loosen up. This can easily be tied into foreplay.
  • A GENTLE, UNDERSTANDING LOVER WHO KNOWS AND RESPECTS THE ABOVE HINTS!!!! You don’t have to be in love with the person you first have sex with, but it should be someone who respects you and your boundaries!!! Before having sex with someone, explain to them these things and your masturbatory experience, your wants and needs. If they don’t respect that THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO BE ANYWHERE NEAR YOUR VAGINA.

Basically it comes down to this: if your partner says “it’s normal to bleed the first time,” sit him (or her) down and talk to them about what actually happens and how it’s supposed to go. If they respect that, cool. If they don’t, fuck ‘em. Actually no, don’t fuck them, dump their ass and find someone who doesn’t subscribe to the belief that anything as lovely and intimate as your first time having sex has to hurt.

This is a basic patriarchal myth to both scare women from having sex, as well as contribute to the laziness of men in terms of making sex enjoyable for their female partners.

Sex never has to hurt. And don’t you dare let anyone tell you that it fucking has to.

If you have health problems that legitimately make vaginal intercourse hurt, there are a billion other things you can do with your partner, and you should communicate your health issues to every single partner. Again, if they respect that, rock on. If they don’t, tell them ‘adios’ and leave the bedroom.

even more information about the hymen

While this is important, I feel the need to say…

Sex *shouldn’t* have to hurt. Sex can hurt, even with arousal. 

So here’s the thing… If sex hurts and you’ve followed all the rules with foreplay and lubrication, please go to the doctor. It may be something simple, there may be a bigger issue. You may also be extremely sensitive. It’s okay. They’ll work with you to help you figure it out.

It may take you longer, as someone with a vagina, to get aroused to the point that sex is comfortable and so you need to do extra.

This is okay. Everyone experiences sex differently and it’s important to find a doctor you’re comfortable enough having these conversations with. 

And if ANYONE EVER makes you feel bad for not being aroused as quickly as them, walk out of there and let them take care of themselves. You don’t owe them the sex they’re asking for, much less the physical pain it will cause you just so they can get off.

^^^^ THIS.

it’s just as misinformative to tell girls that their first time will never hurt if they are ready. you can be completely ready to have sex, have a lot of foreplay and it can STILL HURT and be uncomfortable. It is normal for it to be a bit uncomfortable, specially because its the first time you have this activity.

Don’t tell girls sex should not hurt ever, because then, when they do everything ‘right’ and it still hurts, it makes them acquire a sense that they do not work or are broken because it was not supposed to hurt and it did. Tell them the truth: sex could hurt as well as it could not hurt. It all depends on your body. As long as it’s not a really horrible pain that makes you feel way too uncomfortable and should stop otherwise to seek medical help, some discomfort will probably happen. This usually goes away once you get used to penetration. BUT ONCE AGAIN, if it’s too painful, you should not endure it. 

(Source: candidlycara)

  • man:

    when you dress like that it's like putting a steak in front of a dog. what do you expect?

  • woman:

    *proves that even dogs have discipline*

  • man:

    wHat!!!!!11!!!?????? WHY ??????????????????????????????????? ARE YOU SERIOUSLY!!!!!!!!!!!!! COMPARING US FREE-THINKING MALE CITIZENS TO DOGS????????????????????/ FEMINISM IS MISANDRY!!!!!1!!!!!111!! WHERE DID OUR MEN'S RIGHTS GO

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